I love naps！(lol)
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Did you get a boyfriend？Will you get married yet? Aren't you going to have children?
http://djaoi.blog.jp/archives/85670558.html?t=1
I wonder if it was around the time that my daughter was in the hospital for leukemia,
I received a LINE from a friend from university, and we were updated each other about our lives, but my friend didn't know what that my daughter was in a difficult situation, and for some reason, I didn't feel like telling her.
We communicated back and forth and as I tried to avoid the topic, and finally my friend said, "Oh, how is ◯◯ (my daughter)?" and I felt like I had been shot in the chest.
Probably my friend was expecting that I'd say, "oh, she's well" and if we had mutual interests, I may have well said "oh, she's well" and pretend that nothing happened......
I don't want to worry my friend, is what came to mind first,
but actually, it was a self defense mechanism to "not want to be pitied"
But I knew that things would get tougher if I pretended to be strong here, my feelings of inferiority would only get heavier and what little that was left of my self-esteem would likely be crushed, so I told her honestly what was going on and about my daughter.
Then she called me within seconds and said "I'm going there now so wait" and even though I said "no you don't need to" she came right away from Tokyo to Shizuoka, and hugged me saying "It's going to be fine!" "Don't give up!" and slapped me on the butt and left. She may have only stayed for 30 minutes, but she was so so cool.
I've always had a proud personality and may because I didn't want somebody's sympathy, it took courage to show my weakness to another, but I was so glad I was able to show her my weakness.
If my friend hadn't asked me "Oh, how is ◯◯ (my daughter)?" things may have ended up without plus or minus.
But because she asked "Oh, how is ◯◯ (my daughter)?"
it turned out to work as a plus for me
and if I had given the wrong response to that question "Oh, how is ◯◯ (my daughter)?" it would definitely not have been a positive.
There are people that ask well intentioned questions
Did you get boyfriend? Will you get married soon? Are you going to have kids?
They don't mean any harm and are likely the same as asking "how are you?" and yet now it's a pretty taboo question to ask （※in most regions）
On the face of it, it may seem like the world is moving towards a kinder world where nobody gets hurt, but I also think that it's a world where no one can save you.
It may hurt a bit to be asked sensitive questions,
but if you can get it out there, it may be an opportunity for you to heal.
It may rescue you from the stress of having to struggle alone,
and if that happens, you may truly be able to be happy for the happiness of others.
Perhaps what's making you stressed is not getting news that your friend is pregnant, but the fact that "you want someone to understand how you feel" and that's that not happening is giving you stress.
In that case, it's better not to try to be strong and keep it all in, but learn to express yourself and share it honestly with someone you can trust.
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This is true〜
So true〜
We want to be thought of as someone great
That we've got things all together.
We don't want to be pitied or felt sorry for.
But if we really want to be great,
have things together,
and not be someone to be pitied,
then being able to say things out in the open, and being real and authentic is perhaps the path there.
The me that wants to impress others and look cool
and if falling apart and struggling inside.
I believed that was the right way
But perhaps true strength is being able to show your weakness?
Perhaps truly amazing people are that way because they are able to show the parts of them that aren't that amazing?
TAKU
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Meditation time with Hiramoto-san〜〜〜
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Realize
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Keep a distance
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Integrate it too＝oneness
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that no longer exists either＝selflessness
（you are no longer there）
We are spending this day called today for the first time.
Someone had that on their profile.....wow. It spoke to me.
Our thoughts and
our senses
Our consciousness only goes to one of these two〜
Stand up ・・・
Spread your legs a little wider than your shoulders
In a shape of the kanji 8
Shake your body up and down
Stomp on your heels
Shake your whole body till your fingertips and toes are vibrating!
At the same time, breathe out from your nose
Until snot comes flying out
Until you feel like you're over breathing
Those sitting down
lift your hands and
use your hands to shake up and down
This isn't meditation, it's the introduction to meditation
When I say stop, stop.
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A photo of Mt. Fuji I received from a friend☆゜:*:・゜
Thank you！
Go back to that moment you felt excited! Take action with that energy and miracles will happen
You can listen to the audio of our conversation here！！！
＠himalaya
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Happy birthday☆゜:*:・゜〜
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Let's learn about honeybees 〜
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By writing into this notebook
You can see yourself and
you can see your future
and you can also see the past you☆゜:*:・゜
Today I listened to Mr. Fujimoto's seminar.
What does that person want？！
Find that out and show interest in that！！！
What are they interested in
what do they like
what do they dislike
and what words mean something to them?! (=that person's values)
I continued the relationship believing that if "I did what I should,
that one day the opportunity would come"
Having one clear focal point.
Don't think of anything else, except what you can give!
If you give, you will be given unto.
example)
You gave Calpis water to everyone around you.
If you keep on doing that, eventually you will dry out.
In the end, you'll want that Calpis water yourself.
If you aren't filled up yourself, you can't give to others.
You'll want others to give something back to you (=human weakness)
These types of relationships won't last long.
You must always be full or know how to keep yourself full.
How to do that=Enjoy yourself
How much are you yourself enjoying your dreams, your ambitions for society,
the possibilities in your work, and the possibilities of your work mates etc?!
How to increase your member's motivation？！
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As a rule, you cannot increase your member's motivation!
It's not possible!
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It's when they see you, with high levels of energy,
that they will begin to change.
So the core and most important thing is,
are you enjoying this work?!
The members in your group
as well as your customers are
a reflection of you.
That person,
who you hope will become your customer one day,
you must learn to like them more than anyone else!
Can you love that person?!
=That's within the realm you can control.
Will that person love you back?!
=That is outside your realm of control.
I didn't seek for a return,
but I continued to interact with expectancy.
Past →Present problems＝Counseling
Present→Future problems=Coaching
In front of you now problems= Consulting
There are 3 areas
Those who aren't getting results "desire results".
Provide the other person's issue (Problem) and a "solution" to that issue (problem)
Past →Present There are still issues that are unresolved
ie) Can't accept myself (self-acceptance)
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Can't love others deeply
Can't trust others
They need to accept their past selves
and be able to feel and accept their own value.
They need to accept "I have value"
regardless of whether things go well or not
Are you able to ask "what pisses you off?" "What is really tough for you?"
Are you able to ask those questions?!
Accept people's imperfections.
"Understanding the heart is important"
When do you get down?!
Why do you feel that way?!
Difference are mere differences
It doesn't mean anyone is wrong.
What's important is that you understand the other person.
Facts and perception (Perception is an illusion)
Through your perception or through our interpretations
we "take action"
and that is what "creates our world".
Interpretations can be either + or -.
Interpretation=meaning
Market
Who are you approaching?
Depending on that →The results will change
What is more important than "nurturing" is "recruiting"
＊Mistakes in recruiting cannot be fixed through education
It's not about how to educate those who join you.
It's about who you choose to sponsor!
Who do you want to team up with?
Clarify your ideal partner
Make it specific
＝Set your persona (Those attending buzz labs will know all about this)
Those who "accumulate virtue" are "those who give"
By enjoying yourself, you can accumulate even more virtue!
God gives wisdom to the person who is enjoying life most!!!!
Being in a good mood ＝This is extremely important
God gives wisdom to those who are moved and those who are grateful
Anger, jealousy etc. are the least productive.
If you enjoy your life each day,
all the information you need will come to you!!!!
Teach the "how"
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Communicate the "steps" (sales file)
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Prepare a Manual, a blueprint 〜
In small organizations that work with tacit knowledge
there are many cases where the top understands things, but it isn't reaching the bottom levels.
Understand the "business structure" of people who are successful and
copy them 〜
Become that person and give output!
Have a mindset revolution
Change your brain to a successful brain.
Your words, your gestures, the places you go ・・・
If you do it concretely, you'll get results faster！！！
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It was truly a wonderful seminar〜〜〜
How is your trust balance?
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Make a call or 10 minutes instead of chatting
Research results show that "human voice" reduces loneliness
チャットの代わりに、10分の電話を。「人の声」が孤独感を低減するという研究結果 | 世界のソーシャルグッドなアイデアマガジン | IDEAS FOR GOOD
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Just how much of this world is a miracle？！
Those who realize this,
can believe in the miracle of themselves 〜
It's a game of just how moved you can be！！！
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Those are the people who are able to receive miracles one after the other!
The commonality in laws of success
It was about DOING!!!!
Only DOING can change people's lives!
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Link to Takumi Yamazaki’s
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