Sunday, August 2, 2020

What happens when you return "rudeness" with "courtesy"



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If you point out the bad points about others, thinking it will help them grow--you'll be on the path straight to ruin 


http://djaoi.blog.jp/archives/83563888.html?t=1

 

If you really trust each other, then you should be able to point things out to each other


It's a phrase you've most likely heard more than once


Thinking it's for the other person 

a very hiiiigh consciousness theory 

I get it if its in the work place 

but what about for friends or lovers of marriages??? 


You are the one who knows the least in the world about your own strong lints, 

and knows the best about your weak points 

Pointing those out to each other only gives me the impression of "I already know that!" 

Talking about growth or raising the human level etc .

Those are probably friendships or love relationships on a different dimension to begin with. 


Normal people are surviving in this human society already, 

most people want their friendships or lovers to be a place of rest, not another place for "growth" 


Please don't bring up "growth" in a place where you go to rest. 


I'll forgive your weaknesses if you forgive mine. That's how I feel. 


Don't point out each others weaknesses with a straight face, 

at very least just keep it to teasing. 

It's a very fine line. 

No reason to be foolish, but no reason to take life too seriously either 

Trust isn't born without the right balance 


If you point out the bad points about others, thinking it will help them grow--you'll be on the path straight to ruin 

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Returning rudeness with rudeness

Courtesy with courtesy 

Either one  is a "reflection" 

but passive people often have the strongest tendency for reflecting. 


A friend did something rude 

You don't know if they meant it or not

but you felt it was "rude" 

So you return it with "rudeness" 

and breakdown the relationship 


If you won't regret it then that's not a problem 

but what do you think would happen if you returned it with "courtesy"? 



Even if someone was rude, return it with courtesy

if you keep that posture

then what is reflected next time is also courtesy 


You are the one who returned with courtesy 

so you become the person taking the lead 

This is the only way you can win against rudeness 


Is it only me that feels that ache when returning rudeness with rudeness 

feeling like you succumbed to it? 

It's all the more reason if you feel pissed off by it

that even if its just stubbornness to return it with courteousness 


What the other person feels when being returned courtesy to their rudeness 

is "embarrassment" 

If you want them to feel that way, 

it's all the more reason why I recommend fighting rudeness with politeness


It's a much more effective route 


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