I will tell you a nice 'I message' that I get to know yesterday.
"Why are you always forgetting?" Is "you message".
Then changes to "i message" ...
"I am sad when you forget something."
I will start talking from "I ...".
Then the nuance changes greatly.
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"I message" is effective for expression!
Just changing the subject from "you" to "me" may not be a critical remark.
Example: When the partner is dissatisfied
→ 'you' message · · · 'Therefore, you are not good.'
→ 'I' message · · · 'I am sorry for your action'
When telling your opinion like this, let's change the subject to "I ~." By doing so, you will be responsible for your remarks when telling your feelings or thoughts to your opponent. On the other hand, if you change the subject to "you", it is easy to become a critical remark, so be careful.
Let's actually do it!
① "How many times will you understand?"
→ "I" message
② "You are always late."
→ "I" message
Well, how is that?
As an example of answer ...
① "How many times will you understand?"
→ "This is an important thing, so I will be saved if you remember."
② "You are always late."
"I am looking forward to seeing you, so I felt a little sad."
This is only an example. When using the I message, please refer to it.
https://www.direct-commu.com/colums/relation/relation_012_04_asa-shyon.html
If you want to change people, master 'I message'
https://next.rikunabi.com/journal/entry/20170504_M1
http://www.nlp-breakstate.net/20161213/
https://books.google.co.jp/books?id=75hfDgAAQBAJ&pg=PT56&lpg=PT56&dq= Ai message & source = bl & ots = dHD28ZYmWQ & sig = HJXoMgne5UPg93XNw3ATcLnnJJc & hl = ja & sa = X & ved = 0ahUKEwiBoIGH8tDYAhXJmJQKHcuXAU84HhDoAQg7MAQ # v = onepage & q = Ai message & f = false
https://books.google.co.jp/books?id=pvNH15VvdAwC&pg=PT31&lpg=PT31&dq= Ai message & source = bl & ots = QpZY1GSZV3 & sig = yKZbtFUG9-7DsM4H28jmXdOtUhw & hl = ja & sa = X & ved = 0ahUKEwiBoIGH8tDYAhXJmJQKHcuXAU84HhDoAQg-MAU # v = onepage & q = Ai message & f = false
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"most
Begin with important things. "
(Peter Drucker)
From Nodacchi Mail magazine ...
First of all, I wonder what is important!
Taku
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Takumi Yamazaki Book, English ver.
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