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【Talk Session Confirmed】Collaborative Live with Takumi Yamazaki
Hi, it's Megumi!
Let me share some live event news with you 😊
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February 15th (Sun) 8:00 PM~
I'll be doing a live event with
Takumi Yamazaki 📣
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Takumi has authored over 60 books
and is a bestselling author with over 2 million copies sold!✨
As a Dream Realization Producer,
he gives lectures and seminars,
and now he's even challenging himself with film production!🔥
The theme for this live event is
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We want to talk about
Black Engines and White Engines!
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Apparently, it's about the secret driving force
behind setting goals and achieving them👀
I think this is why Takumi
can juggle so many things—writing, speaking, artistic pursuits—
and keep taking on new challenges one after another🔥
Sounds like an exciting theme—I'm looking forward to it too😍
Our last collab live
was an absolutely amazing show packed with memorable quotes,
so I have a feeling this one will be legendary too!
Please come watch! ☺️
⏰ Sunday, February 15th, 8:00 PM
We'll start on Instagram Live!
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Going to Bali〜〜〜
The dates changed
It'l be from June 3-7.
This is crazy good for the price, isn't it?!
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Below is a structured, step-by-step summary of the lecture content you provided, organized according to: Purpose → Concept → Examples → Work → Learning
(Note: The original text cuts off mid-sentence, so this summary organizes the material up to the available portion.)
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1. Introduction: Speaker Background and Today’s Aim
Purpose
To clarify why this session matters and what the audience should expect.
Concept
The speaker (Professor Ōkuma) has built his work around coaching and has continuously delivered communication training and workshops to:
Sports coaches and instructors
Schools (teachers and children)
He positions communication not as theory, but as something practiced and embodied in real educational and athletic settings.
He clearly states that:
The session will condense key insights into one hour and that it will be experiential, not lecture-only
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2. Social Problem Framing: Two Abilities That Are Declining
As the “foundation” for the lecture, the two abilities to cultivate are defined as follows:
(1) Thinking Skills
2 + 8 = ? ... School (Other-Centered)?
+ ? = 10 ... Company ... Thinking Skills (Other-Centered)?
+ ? = ? ... Life ... Self-Direction (Self-Centered)
• “The ability to produce correct answers (calculation, memorization, etc.)” is easily cultivated through school education
• However, “the ability to pause, devise solutions, and think” tends to deteriorate
• When thinking skills weaken, one becomes easily swept along by instructions (mental shutdown, passivity)
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(2) Proactivity
Distinguishing and explaining this from the similar term “self-initiative”.
• Self-initiative: Taking the lead in doing what is prescribed
• The person giving instructions (teacher/supervisor/coach) “decides what to do”
• This often leads to dependency and shifting responsibility
• Proactivity: Deciding what to do by first considering “what should be done”
• Promotes independence and willingness to take responsibility
• As more people become proactive, the quality of society and communities improves
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3. Learning Design: Listening Alone doesn't Stick (The Learning Pyramid)
• Listening alone has low retention rates
• Skills are acquired more effectively through speaking/experiencing/teaching than through reading/viewing
• Therefore, today's approach will focus on “workshops, games, discussions, and output-centered activities”
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4. Defining the Purpose of Communication
• The purpose of communication = building relationships
• Both happiness and troubles often stem from relationships
• This is precisely why it's crucial as a technique for cultivating “connections”
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5. Principles of Effective Communication (Metaphors and Key Points)
(1) From Self-Centered to Other-Centered
• Just doing “what you want done” leads to misalignment
• What matters is doing “what the other person wants”
• This requires dialogue to understand the other person
(2) Catchball vs. Dodgeball
• Good Communication = Throwing a ball the other person can easily catch, catching it, and returning it (two-way)
• Bad Communication = Throwing it one-sidedly and ending there (self-contained)
(3) Skill Hierarchy
• Speaking (Communicating)
• Listening
• Asking Questions to Draw Out Information
• Receiving/Acknowledging
...are presented as core skills.
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6. "Communicating" and "Being Understood" are different: Examples of Failed Communication Design
■ Drawing Game (Face Drawing)
Draw a circle...
Draw a horizontal line, then a vertical line...
• When drawing based solely on instructions, the finished product varies wildly between people
• Cause: The “goal” (what to draw) wasn't shared upfront
• Lesson: When communicating, creating a shared understanding of the goal is essential
• The standard is “completed when understood,” not “completed when communicated”
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7. The Influence of Nonverbal Communication (Mehrabian's Approach)
• In some situations, expressions, tone of voice, and attitude convey meaning more powerfully than the words themselves
• Especially when words and expressions contradict each other, people tend to believe the nonverbal cues over the words
• Key Point: This isn't about downplaying content, but about how “consistency” builds trust
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8. Psychological Insight: Hans's Mistake (The cause lies not only with the other person but also with oneself)
• He appeared to be a horse that could be calculated, but in reality, he was merely reading subtle reactions (tension, expressions) from his surroundings
• In other words, sometimes it is oneself who creates the “reason the other person reacts that way”
• Lesson: Before blaming the other person when something doesn't get through, examine your own delivery, atmosphere, and assumptions
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9. Relationship-Building Practice: The Common Ground Game
■ Rules
• Pairs of two ask questions to uncover “common points beyond appearance” and compete on quantity
■ Learning (Law of Similarity)
• The more common ground found, the easier it is to close psychological distance
• What matters more than “time spent” is
where you direct your interest and what questions you ask
• Therefore, when meeting someone, adopting the perspective of “What might we have in common?” makes building a relationship easier
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10. Safety and Security as the Foundation: Maslow's Context
• People tend to be wary during first encounters
• Before a relationship progresses, the first need is a sense of safety and security
• On that foundation, exploring common ground and a sense of belonging develop, leading to acceptance
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11. Defining “Active Listening” and Why It's Challenging
• “Listening” involves receiving not just sound, but also expressions, state, and atmosphere
• People have a higher processing capacity for listening than for speaking, creating mental space
→ So they start thinking about other things or get sleepy
• True active listening = a state where the speaker feels they are being heard
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12. Example from medical settings (partial): Average time before interruption
• A study found the average time before a doctor interrupts a patient mid-sentence is “about 23 seconds”
• The text ends just before explaining further details (like the time patients get to finish speaking)
0. Big Picture (What This Session Communicated)
Yamazaki-san’s talk: “Super Human Relationship Skills.”
→The conclusion: The real difficulty is not business — it is overcoming the difficulty of human relationships.
The key lies in: Love (attention), forgiveness, compassion, and staying present without trying to fix (negative capability).
1. Opening message: Message from two graduate emcees
“Thank you so much.”
Erichan and Yuriechan — your very presence represents future possibility.
Erichan is brilliant.
A trustworthy next-generation leader.
Please continue forward with strength.
Yuriechan has exceptional sense.
Especially a genius at connecting people.
She introduced me to Nagakura-san, a legendary producer who helped bring Hidetomo Tomabechi to the world.
A beautiful connector.
2. Yamazaki’s Assessment: The Current Momentum and Guest Value
The two emcees’ attractiveness contributed to the overall success of the event.
Regional expansion is beginning (Osaka, Nagoya Timeless, etc.).
Strong intention: “I want you to grasp something from people who are in season.”
3. Core Message: Super Human Relationship Skills (Problem Setting)
3-1. Main Claim
What is difficult is not business — it is relationships.
Even if you quit business, relationship challenges will reappear in other life scenes.
Life is a place to learn relationships.Marriage, parenting, in-laws, old age — there is no escape.
3-2. Business Structure Is Simple
Too close → friction
Too distant → coldness
The real difficulty is becoming friends with “a friend of a friend.”
Relationship-building is the core challenge.
4. Conclusion 1: Love the Person → Results Improve
4-1. Critical Insight
“When you love the person, their probability of success increases.”
After 40 years, it’s clear:
Helping someone does not automatically make them succeed.
The biggest reason success doesn’t spread?
Without love, the person does not thrive.
4-2. Recovery Philosophy
When things fall apart or someone leaves —
Return to zero and choose to love them again.
Song often sung:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bVYu3f4qfsU
Sakamoto Fuyumi – “Mata Kimi ni Koishiteru” (“I’m Falling in Love with You Again”).
5. Conclusion 2: The “Empty Chair” Practice
5-1. Purpose
To think from the other person’s position.→Using the empty chair method
5-2. Method
Prepare two chairs.
Sit as the other person.
Recreate your own expressions, tone, and posture.
Switch seats and observe yourself.
You realize: “So this is how I appear.”
5-3. Key Observation
You evaluate yourself by what you intended or said.
Others evaluate you by what they experienced.
Same event — different worlds.
6. Conclusion 3: The Most Important Word Is “Forgive”
6-1. Who to Forgive First?
Yourself.
Those who are harsh with themselves tend to be cold toward others.
6-2. 40-Year Conclusion
No one has ever grown because of anger.
Anger does not grow organizations or people.
6-3. Therefore, You Need Allies
You need a place to release “mud and sludge.”
Before advice — first let it out completely.
7. Why Logic Alone Doesn’t Remove Emotional Triggers
Reactions are influenced by:
Past experiences
DNA
Generational imprinting
Example: smell + electric shock conditioning affecting descendants.
Therefore, logical reasoning alone cannot undo reactions.
Embodied work is required. (to let it go from the roots)
8. Redefining Love: The opposite of love is note hate→ Showing interest is love.
Quote by Mother Theresa.
Ask questions.
Look for common ground.
Seek to understand.
That is love implemented.
9. Beyond Love: Compassion as Practical Skill
9-1. Compassion Defined
Lightening someone’s heavy heart.
9-2. Why It Matters
In 10–30 year relationships,
Throwing truth at someone is less effective than lightening their heart.
10. Negative Capability: Don’t Pull Them Up
10-1. What It Means
Do not cut someone down with “That’s wrong.”
Respond not to the correctness of facts, but to the fact that they are suffering.
10-2. Core Principle
When someone sinks fully, they stabilize.
Once stable, they rise on their own.
Only then can coaching begin.
11. Generational Context
Many people today cannot voice dreams.
30 lost years.
Corporate politics rewarded compliance.
Asking “What’s your dream?” triggers defense.
Therefore, presence and patience are increasingly vital.
12. Growth Model: Alternating work and human growth
Work growth and human growth alternate.
When work grows → human depth may stagnate.
When work stalls → deep human learning begins.
Life quality rises through this alternation.
13. Worldview: Personal reality is a reflection of your personality
To change reality, you must change your way of being.
Trying to change outcomes while keeping your identity fixed is the mistake.
14. One-Time Success vs Sustained Success
Mountain-shaped success (spike).
Trapezoid-shaped success (sustained plateau).
Those who last can share weakness.
15. Black Engine vs. White Engine
- Black (competition, approval, anxiety) alone won't sustain a long flight
- Switching to White (purpose, prayer, others' happiness) allows you to fly farther and longer
- However, since Black fuels the launch for some people, I won't dismiss it
- → “Set goals with Black, achieve them with White” is the proposal
16. Daily Practice: Dot → Line → Story → Confidence → Attraction
Record daily insights as “dots.”
Dots form lines.
Lines form stories.
Stories create confidence.
Confidence increases synchronicity.
Takeaway in 3 Lines
The real difficulty is relationships — face them and level up.
The keys are love (attention), forgiveness, compassion, and presence without pulling up.
Make a daily dot. Dots become lines. Lines become stories. Stories move life.
This is not “feel-good coaching.”
This is restructuring personality —
because personality creates reality.
And the answers do not need to be beautiful.
The moment you make them beautiful, you move away from truth.
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7-Step Coaching Framework (Order matters)
Step 1：Fix one target
First, narrow your focus to just one target (if you scatter, your subconscious escapes).
Q1. What is the one thing you want to “make go well” right now? (15–25 characters)
Example: “Stabilize team relationships and grow sustainably”
Q2. Write three observable facts that would show it is going well.
(Numbers / behaviors / frequency)
Example: ◯ people operate independently per month / consultation requests decrease / referrals arise naturally
Step 2：Identify the single biggest "block"
If this point is off, everything becomes diluted.
Q3. In which situation do you feel the most pain right now — with whom, and in what moment? (Be specific.)
(Anger / impatience / disappointment / emptiness / contempt / anxiety …)
Step 3：Put the "Black Engine" into words
The Black Engine is not evil — it is a brilliant mechanism that has protected you.
However, if you let it drive, it can only fly short distances.
Q5. In that situation, what are you truly trying to protect?
(Example: pride / correctness / reputation / the value of your effort / control / safety)
Q6. On the flip side, what are you afraid of? (Name one worst-case outcome.)
Example: “Being abandoned” / “Being treated lightly” / “Losing my influence”
Q7. What age version of you reacts most strongly to that fear?
(Just identify the age. It reveals the past personality involved.)
Step 4：Release the core of forgiveness --the "verdict" against your own self
The root of being harsh toward others is almost always a verdict against yourself.
Q8. Write the sentence of judgment you have passed on yourself, as if in a courtroom.
Example: “I have no value unless I produce results.”
“If I let my guard down, I am finished.”Q9. Whose voice is the “judge” who passed that verdict?
(Father / mother / teacher / former boss / society / your past success self…)Q10. If that verdict dissolved, what could you stop doing?
(Anger / policing / comparing / pressing / rushing / sarcasm / testing others …)
Step 5：Implement compassion--making "just sitting with" a skill
This is not emotional theory — it is technique.
Q11. Choose one person you feel like “hitting with logic.”
What secondary gain are they protecting? (What are they benefiting from?)
Example: avoiding responsibility / avoiding expectations / avoiding failure / gaining approval / victim position, etc.
Q12. What is the one sentence they probably want to say but cannot?
(When you speak it for them, compassion activates.)
Q13. Decide one rule you will follow until they “surface on their own.”
Example: “Do not pull them up.”
“Do not rush conclusions.”
“Do not ask about dreams yet.”
Step 6：Empty Chair (The fastest way to shift personality)
From here it deepens. You only need paper and a chair.
Q14. Choose the one person you most want to influence.
Write three things they might say about you — without mercy.
Example: “Your pressure is strong.”
“You’re right, but cold.”
“In the end, you’re not really listening.”
Q15. When you imagine hearing those words, where in your body reacts?
(Throat / chest / stomach / brow / shoulders / abdomen …)
→ That is the root that needs to be released.
Step7：Place one dot daily (the fastest way to rewrite the subconscious)
Finally, create a ritual that rewrites reality.
Q16. Write just one dot for today.
“Today, I understood ______.”
“Today, I released ______.”
“Today, I chose ______ again.”
Q17. If you continue for 7 days, what will be the single theme of your dots?
Example: forgiveness / attention / staying with / releasing anger / White Engine, etc.
Congratulations Mr. Yokoyama〜〜〜
The afterparty was fun too!
Thank you everyone!
Link to Takumi Yamazaki’s
ENGLISH Book “SHIFT”
