While being coached by Mr. Akio Hiramoto the other day
he said regarding the ideas that
bubbled up from my heart?
or came down as an inspiration?
he said to ask myself each and every time.
Should I write the rest?!
When I asked that,
what came back was, "Write it and let it settle"
And when I asked,
"And then?"
what came back was
"let go of your thoughts"
It seems like my job is to convey the
ideas (gifts) that come to me.
This applies to gifts I receive for myself too ・・・
↓↓↓ I will post THE ART OF RECEIVING here↓↓↓
The art of Receiving Part 1
Before we learned how to speak,
were were learning about touch
With our hands we felt our way through the world
to make sense of it,
to discover what felt good.
What we didn't know
was that we were also learning something else.
Every time we had to go along with bed time,
or brushing our teeth or kissing our grandparents who we didn't want to but we didn't have a choice
we were learning to go along with what we didn't really want.
Even if sometimes it was for our own good.
Even if sometimes it really really wasn't.
We were learning that what was happening to us
was more important than how we felt about it.
And as we got older, we got used to it.
We got used to tolerating and enduring what we didn't want, what we didn't ask for.
We got used to diminishing our desires and having your boundaries crossed.
Sometimes we have to learn all over again that we do in fact have a choice.
Choosing is the most important thing.
This is where consent begins.
When was the last time you were touched
exactly the way your body wanted to be touched.
When was the last time you asked.
It takes courage to ask.
It takes deep listening to yourself and
trusting what you hear and valuing it.
Listening to your own body, your own want.
Sometimes it's time to put yourself last and go with what others want.
And sometimes it's time to put yourself first and ask for what you want.
And if the other person says yes, this is a gift for you.
This is receiving.
There is an art to receiving that no one teaches us.
We think we're supposed to like whatever happens to us and be thankful for it.
but we got it backwards.
The thing to ask yourself is not,
"Why don't I like this?"
The thing to ask yourself is
"What is it I actually want?" instead.
When you ask for that and the person says yes,
it touches your heart and feeds your soul.
It starts with listening to yourself.
We long to give with generosity and a full heart.
We think generous means willing to give anything.
But we've got it wrong.
When we give what we can, and not what we can't, the magic happens.
When we acknowledge our own limits first, we unlock our generosity within those limits.
Limits first
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then the joy happens.
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Then the generosity happens.
Not the other way around.
Our receiver can feel safe in their asking,
knowing that if we say yes, the gift we give is real.
It touches our hearts and our receivers hearts and feeds us both.
And that's the art of giving!
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Doing what your heart leads you to.
Each time, asking yourself what you actually want.
Is it possible that through having learned to adjust to others
we have become frigid to our own senses?
Receiving is giving・・・
Giving what you can, not what you can't.
TAKU
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Link to Takumi Yamazaki’s
ENGLISH Book “SHIFT”
