Taku's Blog++: Do you need someone's permission to be happy? ! → How do you learn to “give yourself permission”? !

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Whose permission do you need to be happy？！

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We're thinking that without even realizing it? !

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In order to be happy, you don't actually need anyone's permission!

Happiness starts with taking a good look at your own heart and

valuing how you feel and how you want to live.

While the opinions, evaluations and expectations of others

are certainly important at times, they do not determine your “happiness”.

Rather, it is important to give yourself permission to feel happy.

Sometimes, by giving yourself permission to think

“I can hope for this” or “I can cherish even these small happinesses”,

your heart will gradually be freed.

Being honest with your feelings and wishes,

and giving yourself permission to do so is “the first step towards happiness”.

By taking a little distance from the expectations and evaluations of others,

and by asking yourself “what is the happiness I want?"

you will be able to feel a deeper, more lasting happiness.

↓↓↓And if you ask ‘please tell me in more details the steps on how to do that’...

In order to develop a sense of “giving yourself permission”,

it is helpful to gradually face up to your inner feelings and take steps to improve your sense of self-affirmation.

Please try the following steps:

1. Bring awareness around your feelings and desires

First, become aware of what you are feeling and what you want. Write down in a notebook the feelings you are holding back for someone else, and the things you really want to do.
It is important to take time to look at your desires by asking yourself “What do I really want to do"

2. Let go of external evaluations and their permissions

- If you find that you are suppressing your own feelings because you are too concerned about what other people think or expect of you, try practicing letting go of these things consciously.
- Try to focus on “what you think” rather than “what other people think” about your actions and choices.

3. Remind yourself that "I can give my own self permission"

Say it out loud: “I can want this” and “I can choose this”. At first you may feel uneasy, but by repeating it, your mind will gradually be freed.
Every day, be conscious of “giving yourself permission” to do the things you want to do and feel happy about, and get into the habit of continuously giving yourself the OK

4. Accumulate small successes

Start with small choices, and build up experiences where you feel a little bit of happiness as a result of respecting your wishes. For example, give yourself permission to enjoy a cup of tea at your favorite cafe, or to read a book you've been wanting to read.
By accumulating small successes, you will gradually start to feel more naturally like you can give yourself permission.

5. Nurture your confidence by drawing on past successes

Look back on the experiences you've had where you were happy with the choices you made, and the small successes you've had. By realizing from past experiences that “making your own decisions can lead to good results”, you can nurture the confidence to give yourself permission.
6. Give yourself permission to "fail" too.
The reason you feel like you don't have anyone's permission might be because you're worried about making a mistake. But think of failure as part of your growth, and give yourself permission to make mistakes
If you can think that it's okay to not be perfect, you can become more positive about your feelings and actions.

7. Develop the habit of daily gratitude and self-affirmation.

By developing the habit of being grateful for even the smallest signs of personal growth and the small joys you experience in your daily life, you will strengthen your trust in yourself. This will make it feel more natural to give yourself permission.
By gradually putting these steps into practice, you will be able to give yourself positive permission for your feelings and desires without relying on others. The important thing is to be honest about what you really want.

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