DJ AOI-san, so good！
Getting "angry", "scolding" or "praising" does not move people's hearts. People's hearts are moved by "gratitude"
In conclusion, there is no one who grows by being scolded.
No matter how right it is,
if you get angry, then it's ruined.
"How you say it" is far more important in communication than "what you say" When someone is scolded,
fear is instilled.
Fear is instilled in acting on their own thoughts
It's as if their own thoughts are being denied
so their self-esteem ends up being hurtEventually, the person who is scolded is slowly robbed of their independence
They end up always being concerned about the opinions of others, not being able to share their true feelings, and even end up getting mentally isolated.
The values make them live in the polarity of "being scolded" "not being scolded"
and become unable to judge good/bad and that "being scolded is not a bad thing"
Ethics can lack thinking "it's okay as long as I don't get found out"
or start getting good at lying in order not to be scolded.
What's most scary is that those who grow up being scolded end up controlling those weaker than them with anger.
They start doing what was done to them to those who are weaker to them,
and its not rare that that ends up escalating into moral harassment, DV etc.
"Getting angry" does much harm and absolutely no good
I'll say it again, but there is no one who grows from being scolded.
Regarding this who grow even when they are scolded, it's because there are those who are following up in the shadows.
That follow-up is what is helping them to grow,
and it's not because they are being scolded that they are growing.
There are people who mistakenly think "I've raised them!"
but that's just shameless arrogance.
Humans are animals that don't grow up as they are told
They grow learning from copying others
If they are raised being scolded, they will simply become someone who finds weaknesses and scolds others. People learn to copy what they can see
If they cannot see what is good,
then it's the same as there not being any learning material.
People's hearts
do not move by being scolded
do not move by being getting angry at
do not move through being praised
People's hearts move
with gratitude
Talking to people not from above or from below,
but on an equal standpoint is important.
Honestly saying "thank you" to those you've been helped by
When that person creates great results, to rejoice with them as if it were you.
Getting angry, scolding and praising etc.
all of that is all trying to control from above
The only method to draw out peoples autonomy
without spoiling the individual will of the person is
"to be grateful"
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Listen to this 5 minute song now, without reading the comments first. The path a 32 year old man chose after quitting music.
The shocking ending
https://www.buzzfeed.com/jp/harunayamazaki/sai-no-kawara
Things don't have to be great♪
You don't have to be a genius♪
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6月21日
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