Taku's Blog++: The Ones Who Break Through, and the Leaders People Naturally Gather Around, Are Without Exception Geniuses at "Focusing on the Good"

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Focusing on the good points

focusing on the flaws

Words I heard from Morita-kun today!

Focusing on the good points and focusing on the flaws.

In this world, there are only these “two ways of seeing.”

Everything comes down to where you put your focus.

Focusing on the good points (biten-gyoushi): looking at the other person’s strengths, the places where they shine, their talent.
Focusing on the flaws (oten-gyoushi): looking only at the other person’s shortcomings, their weak spots, their failures.

Depending on which pair of glasses you put on, the reality in front of you flips 180 degrees.

When our relationships aren’t going well, we’ve unconsciously put on the “focus on the flaws” glasses.

“That’s what’s wrong with that guy.”

“Why can’t he do this?”

Once you start hunting for faults like that, your brain starts gathering the evidence, one piece after another.

It’s a strange thing — the more you look, the more flaws you find.

Fault-finding takes no talent at all; anyone can do it.

But that only wears down the energy on both sides.

On the other hand, people who break through in an overwhelming way — the leaders that others naturally gather around — are, without exception, geniuses at focusing on the good.

“Oh, this part is so good!”

“I really respect this about you!”

They find the other person’s light, and they keep shining a light on it.

And what happens then?

The person hearing it feels good, gets more into it, and starts growing all on their own.

The strongest magic for drawing out someone’s potential has always been focusing on the good.

Start with yourself, and then with the precious people right in front of you.

Which glasses will you put on today?

It all depends on your choice.

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Five exercises for installing “focusing on the good” into your daily life

1. The 30-second respect shower

An exercise where you find the “shining points” in the person in front of you and put them into words, all within a 30-second time limit. Not praise — say out loud everything you see in their talent and their way of being, from the viewpoint of respect.

2. The flaw-filter detox journal

Before bed, look back on whether you got caught up in someone’s “bad points” that day. If something snagged you, rewrite it from the good-point perspective: “How could I support them here?”

3. My reframing notebook

An exercise where you convert every one of your “complexes” and “failures” into good points — the flip side of a talent. Just as “I get bored easily” can be rephrased as “I’m endlessly curious and light on my feet,” you change the way you see yourself.

4. Making an “owner’s manual” for your teammates

Write out three things you respect most about the people you work with or your family, then put into words “what kind of praise motivates me most” and share it. You come to understand each other’s triggers.

5. The cheerleader in the mirror

In the morning, when you look in the mirror, declare out loud to yourself “the best thing about me today.” Once you can put the good-point glasses on for yourself, that perspective naturally settles in toward other people too.

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The strength-development method

The weakness-correction method

Which one is better?!

That’s the question.

Yukio Funai sensei said…

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The strength-development method.

The ultimate logic left behind by Yukio Funai, the god of management, for dramatically leaping forward in life and business.

Whether you know it or not completely changes your results.

Most people in the world tend to run toward “fixing their weaknesses.”

“This is where I’m bad.”

“I have to fix this weak point.”

And so they burn enormous energy and time trying to bring their minuses back up to zero.

But think about it.

A person’s flaws, turned over, are that person’s intense individuality and the source of their energy.

Force-correct that, and at best you produce an “average person” — you will absolutely never break through.

The basics of the “strength-development method” Funai sensei advocated are simple.

Grow your strengths; leave your weaknesses alone (or hand them to someone else).
Put all your resources into your strengths, what you love, and what you’re good at.

Everyone has strengths. When you shine a light on them and grow them thoroughly, that person’s energy explodes.

And oddly enough, once your strengths are fully grown, the weaknesses that used to bother you either stop bothering you or get covered for on their own.

It’s exactly the same in business and in team building.

A meeting about how to maximize “what we can do” is overwhelmingly more exciting — and more productive — than a meeting about how to fix “what we can’t.”

Where does your greatest strength lie?

Are you concentrating all your energy there?

If you have time to fix your weak points, use it to push your strengths straight through the ceiling.

Everything starts moving from there.

“The Ballerina’s Midnight Snack”

“The Ballerina’s Midnight Snack” is a healthy sweet (dessert) made by combining strained yogurt with grapefruit, and it’s been getting a lot of attention on social media.

Characteristics and the basic recipe

Ingredients: unsweetened plain yogurt (or Greek yogurt), and pink grapefruit.

How to make it: drain the yogurt overnight (or for a few hours) to remove the whey, then mix in the peeled grapefruit segments.

Taste: because the yogurt has been strained, the texture becomes chewy and rich, almost like a no-bake cheesecake, and the tartness and slight bitterness of the grapefruit keep it refreshing. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]

Variations that change the flavor with honey or a pinch of salt are popular too. You can get a feel for the detailed method and the actual texture in this video (I tried making the ballerina’s midnight snack #asmr) as well. [1, 2]

If you’d like to see it actually being made and get a sense of the texture, take a look at this video:

https://www.instagram.com/reels/DaaPtNgt3zC/